Now some might say that is just normal for a new mother. Has she stopped breathing….heart races and you feel fearful and anxious. Joy experienced, immediately followed by that sense of doom. Like you look at your beautiful child sleeping, feel a sense of pure love and peace and the immediate next thought and feeling is what is going to go wrong? She’s going to die in her sleep. I lived in a state of fear and anxiety, I certainly couldn’t make a logical decision, I definitely couldn’t remember anything and any joy experienced was what Brene Brown terms “foreboding joy”. This is how I felt for some time after the birth of my first child. In other words, the brain becomes incoherent. It is much harder to remember things and it is certainly much harder to communicate effectively, rationally and calmly.
We also know that when the brain is stressed, when it is overwhelmed, when there is chaotic thinking, it is much harder to make rational and logical decisions.
We know that elevated emotions such as joy, compassion, love and appreciation feel much better and usually encourage more productive, caring and stress free lives. Whereas, emotions of anger, frustration, hate and lack, produce states of mind that feel much worse and produce more stress and unkind behaviours, to both ourselves and others. This information is very new in terms of our current evidence based medical paradigms, however, it is ancient wisdom in terms of what we intuitively and historically know about human function and behaviour.
However, I'm not alone as many people across the globe are waking up to the heart centred work, and like myself are finding that it's been the "missing" piece for us.Learning the science and application of heart coherence and brain coherence has been the most important and profound lessons in my professional and personal life thus far. To ignore what worked for me would be to invalidate all that I've experienced and achieved to have got me here. I know from personal experience what happened when I started to apply this knowledge. I make no apologies for passing this information on and personally don't care if it's seen as "fringe". With the heart being the biggest magnetic part of the human body, when we increase coherence we increase our energy on all levels.
My role as a heart focused coach is to map out with my client how to return to a more heart-centred life to increase satisfaction. Some of those feelings lead us to a more satisfactory life, and other emotions take us further away. In contrast, we can quickly become incoherent when we experience negative attitudes and emotions which may be present because of years of repetitive thoughts that we may not even be aware of (subconscious beliefs).īeing more coherent is not about wrong or right, or good or bad emotions! But rather acknowledging that our emotions are the result of years of conditioning. These include deliberately concentrating on feelings like caring, love and gratitude and other states of appreciation. One of the simplest and quickest paths to learn coherence is through intentional practice. So how do you get and grow heart coherence? Our emotions are symptoms and what happens when we ignore symptoms? They get LOUDER! How many times have we sensitive folk been shamed into being labelled as "over sensitive" or "over emotional" when in fact we are sitting on some high intelligence that we just haven't learnt to manage properly. We live in a society that puts so much value on our IQ (intellectual intelligence) when our EQ (emotional intelligence) should be equally as valued, if not more. Whilst science tells us that we may well be the most "conscious" beings on the planet, somewhere this information got lost in translation and we've become more reliant on our "thinking" than our intuition or heart intelligence. Quite logical, really, when you think that the heart is formed before the brain! Yes, that means that our heart talks to our brain and not the other way around like we've been led to believe.
Heart work and coherence recognises that the heart and mind are linked and work in partnership through the nervous system, and that the heart organ is in fact the biggest influencer! (Heart Math Institute).